South Asian culture is:
- feeling obliged to help/offer help in the kitchen when you're a guest in someone's house just because you're a girl/woman
- pressured to serve food/clean up after the men in the family
- that awkward moment when you wake up after sleeping an inappropriate amount at your in-laws' place
- having to tiptoe around the conversation of periods, homosexuality, dating and premarital sex
- complimenting a certain boy/man by remarking he is like a 'daughter' because he cooks and helps around the house....gasp! an unprecedented sighting!
- boys/men walking casually to the sink after dinner, stacking their used plate on the counter and walking the fuck out of the kitchen
- dividing chores by gender during festival time, i.e., men do next to nothing while women do everything and carry the pressure of looking presentable at the allotted auspicious hour
- your family telling you not to do too much as you please while you're living with your in-laws
- telling daughters-in-law 'oh, we want to see our grandson' as if women are magicians and can procure male heirs for your kingdom out of thin air
- having to think twice before going to stay at your parents' because you don't want your husband or in-laws to think you go there too often
end rant
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